Do you ever feel numb and simply put up with everything that comes your way? You figure you’ve handled it before and this time you’ll do the same thing? Have you ever told the doctor or nurse, “It’s ok, my pain tolerance is very high?”

Well, I used to be that way. I used to take whatever life sent me and chose to simply handle it. Thus the start of the blog series S.H.I.T. Simply Handle IT.

That is where I was completely wrong! Completely. And if you are simply handling it, you are completely wrong as well. You are not a doormat. It is not a sign of strength. It is not generosity. It is not being nice to everyone. It is none of those things.

Do you know what I discovered it is? The mindset of simply handling it? It is a a survival mechanism developed over time due to repetitive trauma experienced as a child and perhaps as an infant or even before birth. This is fascinating and also very difficult to wrap the mind around. Stay with it and immerse yourself in the evolution of the self.

How does one go from simply handling it to another state of being? How does one realize and embrace being worthy of only loving kindness, safety, nourishment, nurturing, joyful connections and more on every dimension known and unknown? It’s simple although it took me about 18 months of intense self work. It has a been a life work and will continue to be so.

Step one: Fall on your face.

Step two: Ask for help.

Step three: Realize that you are the divine source of your own healing and experience. Ask yourself daily two questions: Am I aligned with source? Where would I be if I was aligned with source?

Step four: Recognize unconditional love from outside sources that are with you and will always be with you. For me the sources are Benevolent Beings.

Step five: Create and enforce healthy boundaries.

Step six: Express gratitude for all and ask for help from benevolent beings every day, ever moment and know they are they to help you. This can be in the form of messages received during meditation, books, friends, family, energy healers, videos, films, nature, animals, etc.

Step seven: Accept the help and guidance you receive with gratitude

Step eight: Ask for your purpose, receive it with an open mind and heart and be grateful. For me, the message is, “To know I am loved.”

Step nine: Work hard and express gratitude for what you choose to receive and practice self love throughout this process. A helpful and big push for me was to work through three books “The Complex PTSD Workbook: A Mindy-Body Approach to Regaining Emotional Control and Becoming Whole” and “Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving: A Guide and Map for Recovering from Childhood Trauma” and “The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma”

Step ten: Inhale peace and exhale love every moment.

Wow, I did not intend for it to be ten steps but there you have it. I would say the number one things are to ask for and accept help, create healthy boundaries and know you are loved. That is what works for me now. And to inhale peace, exhale love.

Thank you to the many benevolent beings that have helped me and continue to help me. Me, Dean, Jessica, Kramer Mufasa, Super G, Zack, Alex, Wilson, Hansel, Tiramisu, Brad, Barb, Pat, Curt, Sandi, Emad, nature, animals, elements, movements, song, breath, sights, and so many more. The list is very long and infinite.

The S.H.I.T. Chronicles have evolved into Sunshine Hooray I Thrive!

Thanks you for your time and for reading this post.